Challenges of Moving Roles
Excitement, relief and joy were all emotions I expected after officially accepting a new position but guilt, doubt and fear were not. I felt guilty for my Emergency Center child life co-workers, who would have to cover my position until it was filled by a new hire. I doubted myself nearly immediately, questioned my decision, and wondered if I would regret it. I know now that I am not alone in feelings this way. As a CCLS, I am used to being thee one to relieve feelings of distress in others, but in these moments, I felt as though my decisions may cause distress others. Being a “helping professional” comes with the never-ending internal struggle to remember it is okay to put one’s own needs above the needs of others.
Most people acknowledge that learning a new role requires time and effort, but many may be quick to forget how it also requires grace and patience. No matter if this is a person’s first time changing roles or their fifth, expecting excellence on day one is simply not reasonable. Unrealistic expectations are most often set by the individual, and the best tools to combat these expectations are patience and understanding. In the moments where doubt creeps in and finding grace for oneself difficult, the next best option is to receive it from others.
A strong support system is also crucial in navigating a professional role transition. As I was gaining independence in my new role and struggling to balance my own expectations, I found myself overwhelmed and emotional. After communicating this with my teammates, I realized that what I needed was someone to tell me that even though I made the decision to change positions, I could still embrace the difficult emotions I was experiencing as a result. This lesson continued to carry me throughout my transition, and it is one of the driving factors for sharing my experiences with others.
The emotions and overwhelming moments that come from changing positions are fleeting, quickly replaced by new opportunities and experiences. When I changed roles, I experienced a huge life change. I was now the proud owner of a new dog named Crosby! Crosby’s presence both in my role at work and in my personal life has brought joy and happiness I could never have fathomed beforehand. Other experiences may not come with as tangible (or furry) of gifts, but they are valuable just the same. Some will find themselves with the gift of time, when a new position comes with shift hours that will better serve a lifestyle or family needs. Others may receive the gift of money, if the new position includes a salary increase or new financial opportunities. Many find themselves with the gift of newfound passion for their new population or unit, and new personal goals and growth that increases their job satisfaction. These changes often provide the validation a person needs to know they made the right choice, even in the face of prior uncertainty and doubt.
A CCLS’s impact on the lives of patients and families is not limited by the unit where they work, the amount of experience they have, or the number of positions they have held previously. What can diminish their influence are feelings of burn out, doubt, regret or stagnation. These emotions can leave someone without the desire to go to work each day and perform successful child life interventions. Recognizing the signs that change could be beneficial will take self-reflection and awareness but can be the beginning of a happier and more fulfilling period of a child life career.
My hope is that any person who is considering a change, in the midst of a change or starting a new role will find support from my experiences. Those who devote themselves to continued growth and sustained passion make the field of child life better. For some, this looks like making the brave decision for change in the face of uncertainty. Still, this decision can lead to new opportunities and experiences, or in my case, a new paw to hold!
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